Let’s be real – I’m not some guru or wellness expert. I’m just a new mom, trying to juggle life between diaper changes, loving my husband, and desperately wanting to rediscover myself. Growing up, I was that girl who blended into the background, always second-guessing myself, always afraid to take up space. Insecurity was my constant companion, whispering that I wasn’t enough – not smart enough, not confident enough, not worthy enough. My journey into spiritual self-love for beginners started when I realized I was tired of feeling small and unworthy.
Something inside me snapped. I’m done standing on the sidelines of my own life!
Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt like you’re a stranger to yourself? That was me. Constantly comparing myself to other moms, other women, drowning in self-doubt. A recent psychology study shows that over 85% of women struggle with some form of low self-esteem, and I was definitely part of that statistic. But I decided – no more.
My spiritual self-love journey isn’t about becoming perfect. It’s about becoming authentically me. It’s about learning to love myself, flaws and all. I want to stand tall, speak my truth, and show my daughter what true self-love looks like. This guide? It’s not just words. It’s my heart, my struggle, and my hope for every woman who’s ever felt small.
If you’re ready to stop apologizing for existing and start celebrating who you are, stick with me. We’re going to navigate this journey together – messy, real, and unapologetically human.
Creating Your Sacred Space For Spiritual Self-Love
I don’t know about you but I don’t have the space to transform an entire room into some Pinterest-worthy meditation sanctuary. Child, the baby has taken over every part of my life and my apartment. We even moved to a bigger place and it’s still not enough. In times like these we do what smokey’s momma said. “Make it enough.”
The truth is your sacred space doesn’t need to be perfect. It just needs to be yours.
For me, it started with a furry rug on the floor and a mirror in the little tiny space between mine and my husband’s dressers. To personalize it even more I took the space on top of my dresser and the wall and filled them with affirmations, a vision board, candles, and some journals. Because I’m a busy mom, it’s always a little messy and ran through but it’s mine, and I love it!
Over time, I learned that a sacred space isn’t about perfection – it’s about intention. Here are my tips for creating your own sacred space:
Claim your spot
You may not find a spot where you can be uninterrupted, especially if you have a new baby in the home like me, but, you deserve a place in your home that is just for you. Whether it’s a closet, a corner, a shelf, or even a drawer, claim your spot and tell everyone else to back off.
Add elements that speak to your soul
Having a mirror along with some affirmations was really important for me because I like to talk to myself and instill positive words. You might prefer crystals, plants, or just a small pillow. There’s no wrong way to do this – trust your intuition.
Keep it simple
One mistake I made early on was cluttering my space with too many “spiritual” items I thought needed. Remember, this isn’t about collecting things; it’s about creating a space that helps you connect with yourself. Start small and let your space evolve naturally with your practice.
Daily Spiritual Self-Love Practices For Beginners
The first thing I learned about self-love is that it is something you choose for yourself everyday. The biggest game-changer in my spiritual journey was the small, daily practices that I incorporated into my routine. Trust me, I tried to dive in headfirst with the 5am morning routine including hour-long meditation sessions. Spoiler alert, that didn’t last long. Learn from my mistake!
I went back to the drawing board and started small with a quick journaling session (sometimes just a couple of lines). Some days I pick a new affirmation and just spend 5 minutes writing about how I can apply it to my life; other days, it’s just a simple gratitude list. The key is consistency, not perfection.
Another practice that is super simple is just a few minutes of mindful breathing. I can get really stressed and anxious throughout the day, especially with a crying baby. Taking a few minutes just to breathe really helps calm me down. The best part is I can do this anytime, anywhere, even when I’m holding the baby. No judgment, no trying to clear your mind completely – just being present with yourself.
One practice that transformed my relationship with myself was mirror work. That is when you stand in front of your mirror and say nice things to yourself. Initially, it felt silly and a little forced but over time, this practice became a powerful tool for self-acceptance. I use it as a good pep talk in the morning that helps get my day started on a positive note. Start with just one positive affirmation each morning while looking into your eyes in the mirror.
Understanding Energy and Boundaries
Before my spiritual journey, I was the queen of people-pleasing. Always saying yes, always putting everyone else first, always running on empty. Sound familiar? Motherhood amplified this, and I realized something had to change.
Learning about energy management was a game-changer. I started paying attention to how different people and situations made me feel. Some interactions left me feeling drained, while others lifted me up. And guess what? It’s okay to protect your energy.
Setting boundaries isn’t selfish – it’s survival. For me, this looked like:
- Saying no to extra commitments that drain me
- Creating small pockets of time just for myself
- Recognizing that my mental health matters, even (especially) as a mom
For more on setting healthy boundaries, check out this guide on self-care strategies.
Connecting with Your Higher Self Through Spiritual Self-Love
The concept of connecting with your higher self doesn’t have to be this complex thing. It’s really just about developing a deeper relationship with your intuition. It’s about listening to that quiet voice inside – the one that knows what you truly want.
Try this simple practice: Each morning, before checking your phone or starting your day, take a moment to ask yourself, “What does my soul need today?” The answer might surprise you. Sometimes it’s rest, sometimes it’s adventure, and sometimes it’s simply permission to be imperfect. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
This journey isn’t about becoming perfect. It’s about becoming more of myself. Some days are magical, some days are a mess – and both are absolutely okay. My spiritual self-love journey is teaching me that I’m worthy of love, respect, and joy – exactly as I am right now.
To every woman reading this – especially the moms feeling lost, overwhelmed, or invisible – you are not alone. Your journey is valid. Your feelings matter. Your dreams are worth pursuing. Remember, there’s no “right” way to practice spiritual self-love. Your journey is uniquely yours, and that’s what makes it beautiful.
As you begin this transformative path, be gentle with yourself. Some days you’ll feel deeply connected, and others you might question everything – both are perfectly normal parts of the journey. The key is to keep showing up for yourself, one small practice at a time.
I encourage you to start with just one practice from this guide and give it your full attention for a week. Notice how it feels, adjust as needed, and gradually add more practices as you feel ready. Your spiritual self-love journey is a marathon, not a sprint, and every small step counts.
Remember, you’re not alone on this path. Share your experiences in the comments below, join like-minded communities, and most importantly, trust that you have everything you need within you to begin this beautiful journey of spiritual self-love.
